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What has dating become?


Dating has become something of the past, which, is sad for future generations. Dating is supposed to be used to spend time with a person so that you can learn the attributes that you would like in a future spouse. Today, that mentality has been completely lost and replaced with just hanging out. I feel that there are a variety of reasons why the thought of dating has changed. I think that young adults view dating as a permanent step into marriage, so they opt to just hang out. Hanging out means just getting together between study sessions or on the weekends with friends. This method of getting to know someone turns into a mess because people only want to be responsible for themselves. Hanging out generally happens with groups of people which doesn’t allow one on one conversation and getting to know one another.
So, if hanging out is so bad then why is dating so important. Elder Oaks, a general authority of the Church of Jesus Christ, said that dating should be planned, paid for and paired off. These three things if done correctly show the different attributes of a man’s characteristics. Planning shows the leadership that will then be present latter on in life. It is important to always have a plan because it also lessens the chance inappropriate things happening that could lead to problems later. Paid for shows the ability to provide for someone in the future. This also shows how resourceful a man can be as well. Paid for doesn’t mean that it has to be some fancy, elegant shindig. It means that that all aspects of the date have been thought of and provided for. Paired off is a way for responsibility for the other person to be taken care of.  
“The Family: A proclamation to the world” talks about the responsibilities each member of the family has. It says the father or male is responsible for providing, protecting, and presiding over the family. These three responsibilities correspond with the planning, paid for and paired off as spoken of in the previous paragraph. Presiding over a family means that there needs to be planned for and taken care of. This corresponds with planning a date or time to get together. Providing for a family corresponds with paid for in the dating realm. Protecting a family relates to paired off while dating. The last one, sometimes is harder to see the correlation. When two people are paired off it means that they have to be responsible for one another. This means that they have to protect one another while being together. The wife within the family is responsible for nurturing her family. When dating the girl is responsible for enjoying and supporting the good things that the man plan and provide. Sometimes guys will plan dates but then they think that the girl don’t like it. The girl nourishes the relationship by trying to provide constructive feedback. It is amazing how the dating realm and the responsibilities of men and women within a family correspond.
Because they correspond means that dating is essential to finding someone to marry. Dating provides the practice field to learn how to handle our responsibilities and show what they would look like within a marriage. After dating for a while courtship can be defined which means that things are getting serious and thinking of marriage. One thing that is important is to remember to not spend 24/7 together because that can lead to problems as well. When a couple is married they don’t spend 24/7 together because they have work, studies and lots of other things that take time out of the day. So if they are together 24/7 while dating then they become so dependent on each other being around that it is difficult for them to allow that space for other needed things.


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