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What Gender means in Life



Today I would like to start off with a quote from "Despicable Me 2". Agnus says “Gru I know what makes you a boy.” Gru turns around with concern in his voice asking her how she knows. Agnus answers “Your bald head." This leads me to the thought of what is it that really determine your gender. Agnus from "Despicable Me" used a gender specific trait or the traits that place a person in a gender box. This example is bad because all men are not bald. However, this shows how people generally treat gender traits or qualities. When this happens, it could offend or hurt other people because they could feel missed understood. I would like to show some other gender specific traits. Female: passive, expressive, and social. Male: aggressive, in their own world.

Gender is who we are and what we are born with. We are either male or female but I feel that the worlds standards have become confused about how to define it. According to the Gospel of Jesus Christ we know that we were given our gender in the premortal life so that we could accomplish what Heavenly Father has in store for us. We also know that we are created after the image of our Heavenly parents therefore that confirms that male and females are essential to this life. Male and females are created differently so that we can complement one another and work together to raise a family. So, let’s take a look at these genetic differences starting with the brain. The male brain has more grey matter which is responsible for storage. Research has shown that this is why the male brain in more like a waffle. It has all these little shelfs with boxes that are used to store information. Males tend to think of what is going on in the moment and have to finish that task before moving to the next. In other words, they have to close the box before opening another one. Males tend to also deal with drama in the moment but then don’t want to talk about it again. Females have more white matter in their brain which is connective tissue. This tissue connects more parts of the brain together and allows a female to multitask more effectively and be thinking about how to fix everything. Women also like to talk about their day and how things went over again to process and let it go. Just because we don't fit all the typical gender traits doesn't mean that we are less male or female. We are influenced by nature and nurture which makes for a vast diversity within males and females. This diversity is good because it allows us to meet people with different qualities that will eventually help us to grow to the potential that we all have which is being sons and daughters of God with the goal of making it back to Him. 

 To end, I would like to touch on the the issue of sexuality because it is a big part of what is going on in the world today. First, I would like to present some definitions that were provided by Brother Williams, who is a marriage and family therapist with many years of experience. 
1) Gay: Identity of a person 
2) Homosexual: sexual actions between people of the same sex
3) Same sex attraction/ same gender attraction= romantic or sexual desires without actions. 
It is important to understand these terms so that they are used correctly and we will limit the possible offense to others. I feel that the best way to overcome some of the challenges today of sexuality is to start with a better understanding of what it is and what causes it.  

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